Purity is way more than abstinence.

Hey friends!

Today I’m going to be tackling the topic of purity. It’s a topic that holds a lot of meaning to me, and it’s been on my mind for awhile. Hang tight with me as I dive in and tackle this topic.



The Christian church today has capitalized off of this whole idea that purity has to do with abstinence. You must buy this book, buy this purity ring, attend this conference, etc. I can’t tell you the amount of friends that I’ve had that have bought the purity rings, and devotional books dedicated to the topic of abstinence. For years even I thought that in order for me to be sexually pure, or abstain from sex until marriage that it was “required” that I wear one of these. “If I don’t wear a purity ring, how will people know I’m striving to live a life devoted to purity?” I would often think to myself……

We’ve turned purity into a checklist that we need to follow.

We’ve gone and told young girls and boys that in order to stay “pure” they must abstain from sex. We’ve gone and told them that their “reward” for being “sexually clean” is to find that perfect spouse that God has planned out for them. Because of this way of thinking, we have men and women out there who remain sexually pure because they think that in doing so they are going to be rewarded one day with a spouse.

I’ve sat with many women who through tears and sobbing have asked me, “What am I doing wrong? Why am I not married yet?”. And honestly, at some point or another I’ve been one of those women who have cried and sobbed my heart out on some other persons shoulder, asking the same old question. “I’m waiting, I’m trying to do everything right. How come nothing’s going right? Where’s my reward?”.

What are we supposed to say to these people who have been sexually pure for their whole lives and watched friends and family who have only been pure for a few days, weeks, months or years and are already getting married?

………hold on here for a second………

I think we may be missing something…
What about Jesus Christ?

I can be as “sexually pure” as I want, and practice abstinence until marriage and buy the purity ring and follow all the correct steps, but at the same time, I can be so dirt stained from my sin unless I have put my faith in Jesus Christ and been transformed and renewed by the gospel. 

All abstinence is is a habit that we have simply attached to mean purity.
Purity is a lifestyle.
It is living our lives in such a way that God originally had planned out for us.

Don’t get me wrong guys……
We are absolutely called to sexual abstinence, but that’s not what defines our purity.

When we put our faith in Jesus Christ and allow the gospel to transform and renew us, we allow God to create in us a pure heart and cleanse us.

Let’s stop telling people that purity is the key to marriage and start telling them that it’s a lifestyle.
Let’s stop telling people that being, “sexually clean” is the answer to purity and let’s start pointing people to Jesus as an example of what purity looks like.







An open letter to the Addict

To that person struggling with addiction whether it may be alcohol, cigarettes, porn, food or drugs.

I know how you feel. I’ve had to overcome my addictions. It wasn’t easy, but I did so with help.

This is letter is for you.

Dear Child of God,

You were created by your Heavenly Father. He knew you before you were born and knows the exact number of hairs on your head. He knows your strengths and weaknesses. 

Struggles and weaknesses are all about being human…

We all have struggles. Whether it is addiction to sex, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, money, etc. There’s something we all struggle with. There’s something we struggle with saying no to, or something that we try and we continue to do it over and over again until we are held in chains by whatever is chaining us down. There’s something that holds us in bondage. 

but guess what? you don’t have to stay in that bondage. you don’t have to be chained to your addictions. 

Jesus bore the sins of the world so that we could be set free. He overcame death on the cross.

I’m not saying that it’ll be easy….in fact it’ll be hard. you may be tempted to order a glass of wine when you and your friends are out at a restaurant. you may be tempted for “one” more cigarette. you many say yo yourself, “I’ll quit gambling after I win $300”. Or maybe you say, “I’m not addicted to weed. I can quit at any point”.

You may have to attend meetings. You may have to have a accountability partner, someone who you can call when you struggle and are tempted. You need a support system.

Oh yes….it’ll be difficult. You may cry. Get angry. It may take weeks, months, years. In fact there may be times when you may backslide. There may be times when you want to give up and give in to that addiction. 

When I was struggling with addiction a friend once told me, “Every day that you say no to your addiction and temptation is a victory with Jesus”. 

You’ve already been set free by Jesus. John 8:36 tells us, “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”

You’ve already been set free. Lean on Jesus, friend. Lean on Jesus.
Lean on Jesus in the moments when you most struggle and are most desperate and tempted.
Don’t give up.
You can overcome with Jesus because you’ve already been set free from whatever is holding you in bondage.
You are free in Jesus. 

Ease and grace,

Elizabeth Louise

//Who// are you?

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “You are who you hang out with”.

This topic will be focused off of that saying more or less.

You start to look like and become what you believe in and who you surround yourself with.

Whatever you start to believe in with all your heart, mind and soul will be distinct to everyone, it will begin to grow roots inside of you.

Likewise, who you surround yourself with plays an impact into who you become and what you start to believe in.

It becomes the root of who you are. It becomes the way people see you. It becomes your legacy on this earthS

So who are you?

Who do you surround yourself with?

Do they race cars? Do they play D&D? Do they like Doctor Who? Do they drink all the time? Are they constantly cursing? Do they read? Do they like to try new things? Are they open or close minded? Are they loving? Are they exclusive? Do they gossip? Are they humble? Are they prone to anger? Are they patient? Do they judge?

What are your beliefs and values?

do your beliefs fall somewhere between legalism, racism, exclusivity, fear, and privilege?…..if so you are probably going to end up looking like a racist, bigoted and arrogant person.

do your beliefs fall somewhere between love, mercy, grace, hope, patience, gentleness, and loyalty?……you will look something like that.

I long to be an example of the love of Christ through my words and actions.

I long to welcome those who are made to feel unwanted, uninvited or unforgiven. Because at the table of Christ we are all welcome, forgiven and wanted.

I long to be an example of love.

I long for my fruits that I produce to be fruits that Christ can use to produce fruits from.
Friends, who do you strive to be?

Grace and ease,

Elizabeth Louise

26 Things That I’ve Learned In 26 years.

That’s how old I will be on Tuesday.
I know I may look like a 21 year old, but I’m actually 26.
Wow. I’m another year closer to being 30.
Geez…..I’m getting so old.

I haven’t written a blog post in awhile due to focusing on writing my book. I recently thought about what I wanted to write about in my next blog post. Do I want to do a serious topic? No. Not right now.
I ended up deciding on writing about 26 things that I’ve learned.
Without further delay, here they are:

  1. It’s okay to say no: I like to please people. It’s something that I struggle with. I don’t want someone to think less of me if I say, “No”. Over the course of 26 years though I’ve learned that sometimes you just have to say, “No”, even if it means someone may not speak to you for a day, or two. Even if it means they may think you were rude by saying no.
  2. It’s okay to take self-care days: Life gets hard. Can we all agree on this? We have so much to do, whether it’s classes, picking the kids up from school, that 5th load of laundry, grocery runs, making the bed, oh and don’t forget squeezing in that daily workout. Sometimes we need to know when we need to have a glass of wine and a bubble bath. Sometimes we need a massage. Sometimes we need a day on the beach. It’s okay to take self-care days. We all need them.



  1. It’s okay to ask for help: I like to try to think that I can do everything on my own. I feel guilty when I feel the need to ask someone for help. I feel like I’ve done something wrong when I need to ask someone for help. Honestly though? There are times when we all need help.
  2. It’s okay to admit when we don’t have the right answer.
  3. Stress only produces more grey hairs, God has everything under control.
  4. It’s okay to not go with the flow and just stand out.
  5. Meditation has become something I look forward to doing each day.
  6. I’m actually a morning person. I enjoy sipping a coffee, enjoying the sunrise and doing my yoga flow.
  7. Baseball has easily become my favorite sport.
  8. I actually really don’t like confrontation: I will avoid it if I can. But, there are times when confrontations happen and you need to take a  deep breath and power on.
  9. I’m basically a hipster. I drink kombucha, I do geocaching, I’m a yoga instructor.
  10. I find great joy and beauty in exploring abandoned buildings and places. I love to see places that are now forgotten and unused and see the stories that they tell and the beauty in them.
  11. Friends will come and go: This is key. Sometimes you need to let people go, maybe the friendship/relationship is abusive, maybe you need to allow God to work in these peoples lives. Whatever the reason may be, there are times when you need to know when to let people go. You will meet new people and gain new friends as your hobbies and location in life changes.
  12. Don’t settle. Sometimes we get impatient, it’s no reason to settle for something less than we deserve.
  13. People change: Change is inevitable. If you aren’t changing, you aren’t growing. Change can be scary, but needs to be tackled head on.
  14. There are times when you need to be blunt and not sugar coat things: We all like to say the truth while finding the right words to delicately put things. Honestly, sometimes you need to say the truth. There are times when you need to say what a person needs to hear.
  15. Having a filter with honesty is key though: On the flip side of being blunt is knowing WHEN to be blunt and brutally honest. For example: You wouldn’t call someone out for offending you on the day they are attending a funeral. Or you wouldn’t tell someone that they seem to have gained a few pounds after having a child. You need to have a filter and discernment on the timing.
  16. You are not defined by your mistakes: Each mistake, each mess up, is a new opportunity for you to find out who you are. It’s a new opportunity for you to grow and learn and move forward.
  17. I still don’t like mushrooms: I’ve tried mushrooms, I’ve eaten them before. I still do not like the taste of mushrooms though. Ugh.
  18. I prefer more of a pescetarian lifestyle: I do eat meat off and on. However, I mainly will eat seafood, veggies and fruit.
  19. Always be humble: Sometimes we get a little too full of ourselves. It’s great to humble ourselves, and remember that it’s not all about us. It’s great to show some gratitude.
  20. Challenge stigma and prejudice when you see it. Always stand up for wrong doing and for people that are treated unfairly. If you see something, or someone being treated unfairly speak up against it.
  21. Be open to hearing peoples opinions: Whether you agree with them or not, it’s great to hear other people’s opinions out and see things from their perspective.
  22. Be kind to yourself and love yourself: We are sometimes our own biggest enemy: More often that not we are our biggest enemy to ourselves. We judge ourselves more harshly and often we are our biggest critics.
  23. There is only one of you: I think we forget this one. We like to wear the same clothes, shop at the same stores, do the same hobbies, listen to the same music. It’s okay to shop at other stores. It’s okay to listen to a band that nobody has heard of. It’s okay to be you. There’s only one of you, so don’t spend your life trying to be someone else.
  24. Quality over quantity of friends: Having genuine friends is the best. Seek out friends with the greatest qualities, rather than seeking a large quantity of friends.
  25. Social media is a blessing and curse: Can I get an amen on this? It helps us keep in contact with those friends we went to first grade with, but sometimes it sucks us in when we spend 3 hours on it. It’s necessary for me to use social media to promote my brand, my blog, my book, etc but there sometimes a time when I need to unplug.
  26. Talk less, and do more: Something I think we all struggle with is talking more than we actually do something. When someone asks us to pray for them, how much easier would it be to either write down their prayer in a book, or to pray with them at that moment? If someone says they need us to help them, how much easier would it be to help them in the moment rather than say okay and forget about it? Let’s do more, and talk less.

It’s okay.

There a days when we can’t find the right words to say.
There are days when we run a little late.
There are days when we forget to put on makeup.
There are days when we forget to do our homework.
There are days when we feel like our world is falling apart.
but thats okay!

its okay for us to not have all the answers
its okay to not always have our makeup on
its okay to not be perfect

It’s okay. Take a deep breathe and relax.

The next time you are running late text your sister, mom, friend that you will be running late.
The next time you don’t have all the answers, it’s okay to look someone in the eye and admit that.
The next time you forget to put on makeup, don’t sweat it! You look gorgeous.
The next time you take a photo on your phone and you don’t look as “skinny” or “beautiful” as you think, don’t delete it. Love yourself.
The next time you forget to do your homework, or turn it in. Admit it, do the homework, but don’t beat yourself up over it.

Take a deep breathe. It’s all okay.

It’s okay to admit we aren’t perfect. So let’s all start with that. We aren’t perfect. We mess up.

It’s okay.