You fall down and scrape your knee or elbow and end up with a wound.
What do you do next?
Disinfect the wound and slap a band-aid over it to prevent anymore dirt from getting inside.
When people or situations hurt you and leave you feeling wounded, how do you respond?
How do you let go? How do you forgive those who have hurt you?
Do you just slap a band – aid over the wound and call it a day?
Or do you actually clean out the wound so that you can truly start the healing process?
In past I’ve always just sort of taken the, “slap a band – aid over it” approach. When my ex-boyfriend cheated, I forgave him and slapped a band – aid over the wound. When a friend hurt me, I forgave and slapped a band – aid over the wound.
I always knew that I needed to forgive like God forgives us.
I slapped band – aids over my wounds and never truly allowed healing to begin. Over the years these wounds would fester and eat away at me and consume me.
In order to heal wounds we need to peel that band – aid back and allow it to breathe.
It’s okay to acknowledge the hurt you were left with. Sometimes it helps to acknowledge that pain and to understand that we’re all sinners in need of grace.
Ignoring the wound that’s there doesn’t help. It’ll only grow and fester.
Whatever wounds you currently have, peel that band – aid back and allow healing to happen.
I get why you don’t want to believe in God.
I get why you stopped believing in God.
I get why you may be weary to enter a church building.
I get why you may be weary to approach Christians.
I get it.
I really do.
I was there.
You’ve seen Christians on street corners who are screaming their heads off about people going to hell.
You’ve seen Christians turn a blind eye and “okay” some sins while calling out others for other sins.
You’ve seen Christians not even bothering to pray for others in their time of need.
You’ve seen Christians in church sit there texting and talking all throughout the sermon.
You’ve seen Christians in church act like a clique, not even bothering to greet the new people.
You’ve had Christians treat you and your salvation just like another, number to them that they will soon forget about.
I get it.
I’ve seen it all too.
For awhile it even made me want to leave the church, and I did for some time.
Here’s the thing though: Christians aren’t Christ.
we are all sinners – in need of the grace and forgiveness of Christ.
Christians mess up.
We aren’t perfect.
Sometimes, you’ll look at Christians and they may be reflecting Christ.
Sometimes, you’ll look at Christians and they won’t be reflecting Christ.
Are you following Christ or Christians?
We go on Twitter and see people tweeting great and inspirational tweets about Christ.
We go on Instagram and see people posting cool photos with the newest filters about an inspirational Bible story and something they’ve learned that day.
We see Christians outside of church and see them smoking, or drinking or cursing and think, “That must be okay”.
We start to compare ourselves to other christians and want to be, just like them. Forgetting though that they too are – sinners. Imperfect. We all fall short of the glory of God.
I’m sorry if you’ve been deeply hurt by a Christian.
I’m sorry if you’ve seen Christian after Christian be a bad witness.
I’m sorry if you’ve ever felt unwelcome in a church.
I’m sorry if you’ve ever been treated unfairly by a Christian.
God isn’t us though.
God doesn’t play favorites.
God doesn’t misrepresent himself.
God doesn’t mess up.
God doesn’t make mistakes.
God doesn’t say the wrong thing.
God never leaves or forsakes you.
God will never hurt you.
God will never be too busy to listen to your fears, hurts, cries, joy,etc.
Friends, I don’t know where you are at right now. Maybe you’re happily married, engaged or just started dating the greatest person. Or maybe you are on the other side of the spectrum and Valentines day is not the greatest day for you this year. Or you could be in the middle, you could be single or in a relationship and just feel that Valentines Day is way too commercialized(you aren’t alone!). I want you guys to know that for years Valentines day was super hard for me. I either had memories of an abusive boyfriend or of a boyfriend who wouldn’t celebrate it because he thought it was way too, “sexual” and instead would lecture me on it. I get it. This post is for you guys. I just want you to know that Valentines day isn’t what defines love. You are loved & known. You are seen & and heard.
Valentines Day! It’s right around the corner….
For months supermarkets have had aisles stocked with teddy bears of all sizes holding hearts that say, “I love you” along with heart shaped boxes containing candy of all flavors and sizes.
Flower shops are quickly gathering orders together, and preparing for the Valentines Day rush of loved ones sending flowers to one another. Restaurants are also bracing themselves for the crowd of people preparing to descend upon them on Valentines Day evening.
So, ladies and gentlemen, what exactly is love?
Is love when your significant other brings home flowers to you?
Is love when your significant other brings you chocolate?
Is love when you have sex?
Is love when your significant other brings home a teddy bear bigger than Mars with a heart that says, “Love”?
Is love when you get up early to cook breakfast for your loved one?
The answer to all of these is no.
These are all things that you do for someone because you want to show them love or appreciate them.
They are actions that show people that you love them.
But, they aren’t love necessarily.
In John 3:16 the Bible tells us, For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
How many of us would give up our children for the world?
How many of us would give up our loved ones for the world?
For God so loved…..
Your aunt and uncle.
Your best friend.
The waiter/waitress at your favorite restaurant.
The politicians in D.C.
The Olympic athletes.
God gave us His one and only son. That whosoever may believe in Jesus, may have eternal life.
The God who created us, who knows our thoughts even before we speak them. Who knows not just the good about us, but the bad too.
He gave up his one and only son.
Jesus died on the cross for the entire worlds sins.
Society has commercialized love to mean that it comes in a “heart” or that love somehow goes with a certain day.
True love is found on the cross and is found daily.
Happy Valentines Day guys!
Side Note: Ever since I went to see The Greatest Showman I can’t stop listening to the soundtrack on Spotify. So I decided to buy it to listen to it in my car as well. Anyone else addicted to the soundtrack?
Close your eyes gently.
inhale through your nose and exhale through the mouth.
Do this a couple times. WHO would you be….
Without the weight of legalism and religion weighing you down?
If you didn’t have to run and hide?
If you embraced the freedom you had?
If you were more certain about your identity in Christ?
If you saw the beauty that God sees in you.
If you knew your worth and believed it.
If you knew that God has already reserved a space for you at the table.
If you knew there was no judgement.
If you knew how much God loves you.
If you didn’t let the weight of all the hate and anger in the world in.
1. You are worthy of being loved. and you are loved.
2. Jesus never regrets saving you.
3. It’s okay to stop watering the dead things in your life.
4. You are allowed to change and grow.
5. Truth often divides before it may bind.
6. God seeks what has been lost and driven away.
7. It’s okay to pray with tears instead of words. God understands them just as well.
8. It’s okay to need help and support. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. even Jesus needed help carrying His cross.
9. Sometimes a cozy blanket, your favorite drink, and a friend will go a long way in the process of healing.
10. You are not what happened to you. you are not the tragedy, or situation or circumstance that happened.
Sometimes when life is difficult and rough, we all just need a little encouragement to cling to to get us through the day, week, month, year.
remember these tiny but immensely powerful truths. guard them in your heart. write them down. share it with a friend. save the link. maybe find some more simple, tiny but powerful truths.
but in times of fear, in doubt, in times of insecurity and loneliness, through the good and bad and tears and laughter remember them.
Today I’m going to be tackling the topic of purity. It’s a topic that holds a lot of meaning to me, and it’s been on my mind for awhile. Hang tight with me as I dive in and tackle this topic.
The Christian church today has capitalized off of this whole idea that purity has to do with abstinence. You must buy this book, buy this purity ring, attend this conference, etc. I can’t tell you the amount of friends that I’ve had that have bought the purity rings, and devotional books dedicated to the topic of abstinence. For years even I thought that in order for me to be sexually pure, or abstain from sex until marriage that it was “required” that I wear one of these. “If I don’t wear a purity ring, how will people know I’m striving to live a life devoted to purity?” I would often think to myself……
We’ve turned purity into a checklist that we need to follow.
We’ve gone and told young girls and boys that in order to stay “pure” they must abstain from sex. We’ve gone and told them that their “reward” for being “sexually clean” is to find that perfect spouse that God has planned out for them. Because of this way of thinking, we have men and women out there who remain sexually pure because they think that in doing so they are going to be rewarded one day with a spouse.
I’ve sat with many women who through tears and sobbing have asked me, “What am I doing wrong? Why am I not married yet?”. And honestly, at some point or another I’ve been one of those women who have cried and sobbed my heart out on some other persons shoulder, asking the same old question. “I’m waiting, I’m trying to do everything right. How come nothing’s going right? Where’s my reward?”.
What are we supposed to say to these people who have been sexually pure for their whole lives and watched friends and family who have only been pure for a few days, weeks, months or years and are already getting married?
………hold on here for a second………
I think we may be missing something…
What about Jesus Christ?
I can be as “sexually pure” as I want, and practice abstinence until marriage and buy the purity ring and follow all the correct steps, but at the same time, I can be so dirt stained from my sin unless I have put my faith in Jesus Christ and been transformed and renewed by the gospel.
All abstinence is is a habit that we have simply attached to mean purity.
Purity is a lifestyle.
It is living our lives in such a way that God originally had planned out for us.
Don’t get me wrong guys……
We are absolutely called to sexual abstinence, but that’s not what defines our purity.
When we put our faith in Jesus Christ and allow the gospel to transform and renew us, we allow God to create in us a pure heart and cleanse us.
Let’s stop telling people that purity is the key to marriage and start telling them that it’s a lifestyle.
Let’s stop telling people that being, “sexually clean” is the answer to purity and let’s start pointing people to Jesus as an example of what purity looks like.
This word carries a lot of baggage with it.
often the weight of the word makes it scary and seem like it’s towering over us ready to pounce
as a teenager when I first started attending youth groups and Bible studies within the church, I would often hear that women were to submit themselves to men.
and honestly? It made me shiver. More so because of the context of how I was viewing submission.
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary submission can be defined as:
To yield oneself to the authority or will of another.
To permit oneself to be subjected to something
When you are submitting yourself to another person you are basically allowing them to have authority over you.
For the longest time I viewed submission as letting men control me or I saw it as giving up my voice and making myself weak. how wrong I was.
Nonetheless it’s scary, right? To give someone that much power in your life….
Let’s look at Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Notice that last part friend, “as you do to the Lord“.
We are to submit ourselves to our husbands as we do to the Lord. We submit ourselves to God’s will daily. We ask Him to have His will be done in our lives.
Let’s take a look at Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
Yes, we are called to submit to our husbands out of love and respect for them, but husbands are called to love their wives as Christ does.
Submission is not a reason to allow someone to ever abuse you or hurt you. Submission doesn’t mean you are any less valued or treasured.
For the longest time I was really scared and I didn’t like the thought of having to submit myself to men. It made me feel inferior or like I had no worth. So dear friend, I understand if you are struggling with that.
My prayer for you is that you see submission not in negative light but as something that you do out of love and respect for that person. I pray that most of all we learn to submit ourselves to Christ daily so that His will may be done in our lives.
whether you are feeling alone, scared, struggling to find worth, hopeless and worn out, dealing with depression or anxiety.
I want to remind you. Jesus is for you.
He is standing on the sideline even when you’ve given up. He is your biggest fan encouraging you to not give up. He is your biggest fan even when you make mistakes.
there will be times when you face trials and moments that will try and tear you down. there will be people that you come across that will be against you.
Jesus is with us through it all. Never leaving our side even when we leave His
Continue to look to Jesus for direction and comfort. In Jesus we will always find a safe place. In Jesus we find hope for our weary souls. In Jesus there is peace. In Jesus, all of our fears are washed away.
The next time you become overwhelmed by guilt, fear, hopelessness, worry, and loneliness, etc
and remember these truths. Remember to cling to Jesus.
Maybe we doubt that we know all the answers to that final exam despite having crammed for it for a week. Maybe we fear and worry what our parents will say about our report card.
Or maybe we doubt God is truly there and listening and we begin to stress and worry about what will happen.
Recently I was reading the story of David and Goliath. In 1 Samuel 17: 38-40 Saul pits armor on David to go into battle but what happens next??
David takes off the armor because he hadn’t worn it before. He’s about to go into battle…….and he rids himself of the armor. WOW!
I don’t think I’d go into battle with no armor. Anyone else agree?
David TRUSTED God completely. He trusted God enough to into battle with just a staff, stones and a sling. Meanwhile Goliath is decked out with a sword and a spear.
But is David scared? No way! In fact he gets up to Goliath and starts BOASTING in the Lord. He trusts that God will be by his side, so David is just trash talking. He’s going, “Oh yeah? Well my God is on my side and He will strike you down”
Guys? What if we did this when we did to experience worry, fear and doubt?
What if we BOASTED in God.
What exactly would this look like?
It would mean we have such enormous faith and trust in the character of God and who God is that we don’t worry as much.
It would mean our first response would be to remind ourselves how BIG God is instead of how big our small problems may seem.
It would mean going into prayer first, rather as a last resort.
It would mean having giant-like faith in God just as David did.
Friends, I pray whatever you are dealing with today, that you begin to establish that giant-like faith with God. Know that God is who HE says He is. Know that God is faithful, everlasting and constant. I pray that you begin to seek God in moments of fear and doubt. I pray that you lean on God and establish giant-like faith with God.
We attend a Bible study or a gathering, and usually there is prayer involved at some point. Whether it’s one person, or going around the circle taking turns as you feel called to pray. Sometimes you hear words like, “Edification”, or “Infallible”, or “Discernment”.
You’ve heard these prayers and maybe you are a new Christian just thinking, I’m so nervous. I just want to say a simple prayer, what if I don’t want to use big words? Maybe you get nervous. Maybe you awkwardly sit there and don’t say anything because you’ve over thought it now.
I know I did. I used to be petrified of praying in front of people, I didn’t have the right words to know what to say and I wasn’t as strong of a Christian as some of the others who had grown up in Christian homes.
Honestly though? God doesn’t care how BIG the prayer is or how impressive the words are. Prayer is simply communicating with God. Over the years of growing and walking with God He’s become my Creator, Judge, Counselor, Parent and Friend. He knows my strengths and weaknesses. He knows my thoughts. The Bible is filled with people communicating to God through prayer. Psalms, Job, etc.
These people they express their feelings, their hearts to God.
In 1 Samuel 1:10 Hannah prays to the Lord, And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed to the Lord and wept in anguish.
Further down a few more verses in 13 Now Hannah spoke in her heart; only her lips moved, but her voice was not heard. Therefore Eli thought she was drunk.
God wants your heart in prayer more than he wants to hear impressive words.
Sometimes we feel hurt, in pain, sad, rejected, etc and the only thing we know to do is cry to God in our tears. Sometimes the only thing we can say is “Thank you God”. Sometimes the Holy Spirit moves in us and gives us these “big, impressive words”. Other times we may not have the right words to say out loud, but God hears our thoughts even before we speak them. He sees the condition of our hearts before we even know if it’s condition.
Don’t be afraid to communicate what’s on your mind and heart to the Lord. However big or small.