A Letter to Those Hurt by Christians

To all those who have been hurt  by Christians,

I get why you don’t want to believe in God.
I get why you stopped believing in God.
I get why you may be weary to enter a church building.
I get why you may be weary to approach Christians.
I get it.
I really do.
I was there.

You’ve seen Christians on street corners who are screaming their heads off about people going to hell.
You’ve seen Christians turn a blind eye and “okay” some sins while calling out others for other sins.
You’ve seen Christians not even bothering to pray for others in their time of need.
You’ve seen Christians in church sit there texting and talking all throughout the sermon.
You’ve seen Christians in church act like a clique, not even bothering to greet the new people.
You’ve had Christians treat you and your salvation just like another, number to them that they will soon forget about.

I get it.
I’ve seen it all too.
For awhile it even made me want to leave the church, and I did for some time.

Here’s the thing though:
Christians aren’t Christ.

we are all sinners – in need of the grace and forgiveness of Christ. 

Christians mess up.
We aren’t perfect.
Sometimes, you’ll look at Christians and they may be reflecting Christ.
Sometimes, you’ll look at Christians and they won’t be reflecting Christ.

Are you following Christ or Christians?

We go on Twitter and see people tweeting great and inspirational tweets about Christ.
We go on Instagram and see people posting cool photos with the newest filters about an inspirational Bible story and something they’ve learned that day.
We see Christians outside of church and see them smoking, or drinking or cursing and think, “That must be okay”.

We start to compare ourselves to other christians and want to be, just like them. Forgetting though that they too are – sinners. Imperfect. We all fall short of the glory of God.

I’m sorry.
I’m sorry if you’ve been deeply hurt by a Christian.
I’m sorry if you’ve seen Christian after Christian be a bad witness.
I’m sorry if you’ve ever felt unwelcome in a church.
I’m sorry if you’ve ever been treated unfairly by a Christian.
I’m sorry.

God isn’t us though.
God doesn’t play favorites.
God doesn’t misrepresent himself.
God doesn’t mess up.
God doesn’t make mistakes.
God doesn’t say the wrong thing.
God never leaves or forsakes you.
God will never hurt you.
God will never be too busy to listen to your fears, hurts, cries, joy,etc.

We are all //that// woman at the well

I’m sure we are all familiar with John 4:1-26 the story about the woman at the well.

Jesus had been traveling and of course when you travel for extended periods of time, you get thirsty. so he stops at a well and asks this woman there to get him a drink. now this woman goes, “uhm, excuse me. we aren’t supposed to associate”. I can just imagine her looking stunned and perplexed that Jesus is speaking to her. you see, she was a samaritan, and men were not usually supposed to address women unless they were accompanied by a husband.

You see, this woman, she was more focused on living by the law. she was more focused on living by the book. i am sure we all know someone like that. perhaps even you are like that. jesus however, he was focused on love and grace.

We are all the woman at the well that Jesus wasn’t supposed to be talking to. we all sin. and sin separate us from god. 

whether its drinking underage, or sex before marriage, adultery, or even cursing or holding on to anger. we all deal with sin. we all have it

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it’s easy for us to point fingers at others and judge those whose sin may be more public and known. it’s easy yes, but it causes isolation. it prevents us from taking the gospel to people who may need it.

As Jesus stated in John 8:7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”

friends, lets put down those stones and realize that we are all the woman at the well. we are all that woman that doesn’t deserve the grace given to us by God. we are all the woman at the well who society would say we shouldn’t be talking to Jesus. we are all that woman.