How to forgive when a person has hurt you.

Forgiveness. Forgiven. Forgive.
These words, ideas, concepts are altogether mentioned in the Bible around 140 times.
the bible tells us that we should forgive people when they hurt us, sin against us. We should forgive them as God has forgiven us for our own sins.


Matthew 6:14-15 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Sounds easy enough, right?

but what if that person has hurt us? what if that person has abused us? what if that person left us beaten and bruised physically and mentally?

How do we forgive people who have hurt us so badly? 

believe me. that’s something that i know i struggle with trying to do.
i struggle with forgiving ex-boyfriends who have abused me; physically, verbally, mentally, etc. i struggle with forgiving ex-boyfriends who have cheated and made me feel disposable. i struggle with forgiving friends who leave. i struggle with forgiving people who have hurt me and taken advantage of me over and over. i won’t sugar coat it. i struggle with this.

Recently though I’ve learned that in order to better learn how to forgive others we need to understand that we’ve all already been forgiven. We are all sinners. that sin separates us from God. whether its a sin of cheating, porn, lying, alcohol, drugs, etc.

In Matthew 18:21-22 Peter asks God how many times he should forgive someone. His answer? “Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

You see. we sin daily. whether you realize it or not. getting drunk, sex outside of marriage, watching that porn, holding grudges, lying, gossiping. each day we sin against the God of the universe. each day we sin against the god who created each and every one of us. yet, god still loves us and desires a relationship with us. think about it this way: for as much hurt as we may feel from a person we are not able to forgive, when we deny god, when we sin against him we hurt him and we separate ourselves from him. yet, he holds nothing over us. he still longs for a relationship with all of us.

i’m not advocating for messaging that person who has hurt you unless the Lord calls you to. what i am saying is that to better understand how to forgive someone, we should start with a understanding of God’s love for us and how he forgives us. when we start with this understanding we can then approach forgiving someone with a understanding of, “Yes, this person hurt me. I don’t trust them. But, they are as forgiven as I am for my sins. Because of this I won’t speak bad of them to others”.

You see, when we start forgiving people we stop allowing those people to have control over us. we start to extend more grace and ease to people.


Essential Oil Sunburn Relief

hey fam.

spring weather is back. baseball season has started. it’s great weather to lay a blanket out on the ground and read a book or maybe catch a tan. maybe you went to that family barbecue.

but ooops! 

you realize you either forgot that sunscreen or it wore off while you were outside.

we all don’t like it when we get sunburns. our bodies are red like tomatoes, and it burns. it hurts. it makes it uncomfortable to relax or sleep. we experience the redness. the sting.

All grace and ease! Here’s a simple DIY Essential Oil Sunburn Relief.

What you need:

-Lavender essential oil(2-3 drops

-Peppermint essential oil(3-4 drops)

-coconut oil(about 3 tablespoons)

-aloe Vera(I didn’t have any so I opted out of this)

The peppermint Oil is a natural analgesic. a pain killer. it provides a soothing sensation. 

Lavender Oil reduces the sting of burns and reduces the redness. 
To get your peppermint and lavender essential oils click here and enter in my Distributor ID:11577392

Let’s all be more real, a little more authentic. 

Social media….

It’s wonderful. But it’s also damaging.

social media has great uses….it allows us to connect with friends, family and acquaintances. it allows us to promote our businesses. it allows us to promote our blogs. It allows us to reach people and audiences.

But in many ways it can be so damaging. yes, damaging.

Follow along for a second. you go out to dinner or a movie, maybe even bowling or a concert. 

How often do you check your phone to type a status? 

take a photo of your food before you enjoy it?

How often do you require a photo be taken for Facebook?

How often are you at a meal looking at your phone?

When was the last time you told someone something serious in person?

Do you take photos of your “healthy” meal constantly?

Do you write statuses wanting likes and get disappointed when there are none?
Let me be real. I do the majority of those things. and I’m sure many of you do as well.

When was the last time we went to a meal and didn’t look at our phones or social media? When was the last time we made a Facebook status and didn’t care about the “likes”? When was the last time we had fun, laughed, enjoyed each other’s company without blasting it on social media? When was the last time your food came and you enjoyed it before taking that perfect picture for Instagram(and while we are being real. we all know that photo was edited a few 100 times).

My point is: when was the last time we were real? When was the last time we were authentic? When was the last time we didn’t judge or depend on the likes or followers?

Let’s all be a little more real. Let’s wave bye to our social media. Let’s stop giving it control over us.

Maybe enjoy that burger and fries. No photo.

Maybe go out with family and friends and don’t write a status about it.

Maybe put down that phone and talk to your next door neighbor or mailman.

Maybe the next time a status get 0-1 likes, keep it up.

Let’s all be a little more real. A little more authentic.